RIP Julie Self.
 

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I'm sure a lot of you have heard already, but if you haven't, Julie Self (apotatojudge), and her best friend Sarah Laws, died in a car accident last night. Here's the only story I've been able to find so far: http://www.mysanantonio.com/news/met....223f9079.html

I'm really too sad to talk about this right now, and I have to go to work and pretend that one of my friends didn't just die for 8 hours, but if you want to use this thread to say RIP, or share a story, or post a funny quote Julie said, go ahead.

Also I will post information as it comes to me, and so will TJ and huond.

RIP Julie.

Here's another paper's report. It's not as informative as the other one, but it's a second source.
Here's a link to a clip of the news story.

They still havent released any names, but her parents confirm it.

I really regret that I was never able to meet her. She was going to be at the COC show, and that just makes me even more depressed.

...I can't think of anything to say. I feel sick.

This isn't a joke or some celebirty we are talking about here so if you are going to post in here please show respect.

Julie was an amazing person who I was lucky enough to meet in New York.

She had an incredible attitude that was really powerful. She could do something to piss you off and you'd still stand by her side no matter what.

This is still so unbelievable that I really don't know what I'm typing so I'll just shut up now.

This is absolutely devastating. I only really knew Julie through her posts here but, with all sincerity, I can say she was one of the funniest and most interesting people to grace these boards. My condolences go out to her family, and the family of the other girl killed. I have many fond memories of her, she constantly brightened my day (one in particular, her valentines day greeting cards that she posted on her blog). I'm just sad that I never got the chance to meet her.

One thing's for sure; this forum will never be the same again.

I wasn't sure if it was the right thing to do, but I did it anyway cause I have no conscience -- a conference call for tonight so we can all get together.

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I always told Julie she had an amazing talent. She wasn't funny... she wasn't hilarious... she was something beyond that. I always had faith that she'd do something with that talent, but today I feel bad for those that never experienced that girl's sence of humor.

I laughed a bit today, reading some stuff Julie wrote and listening to a voicemail she left me some time ago. Knowing Julie as little as I did, I think she'd want us to laugh (I know that sounds corny, but it's how I feel).

In the end, it's all about her and how we face her tragedy. I'm happy to of ever known her, and I'll sure miss Gigglette.

Calling her mom this morning to get the confirmation is the most heart-wrenching act i've ever performed in my life. I could hear Julie's brother crying his eyes out and it tore my soul to ribbons. I feel so many shades of absolute shit right now.

I feel terrible about not really knowing anything about Sarah and who to contact about her. She was a lot of fun too. FUCK.

That is perfect for describing my friendship with her. I'm going to miss Her and Sarah so much. The only thing that makes me feel even slightly less ass-faced is that I got to take her to NYC last month and she was able to meet Nick, Jeff, Andy Blitz and all kinds of other folks she really wanted to meet. I had such a fucking blast being with her. Fuck, that was one of the best weeks of my life.

I know I shouldn't think this way so please don't tell me, but Julie invited me to come with them yesterday and I can't help but think that if I had gone, we could've cheated fate.

I don't know how many times I've said this in the past 13 hours, but I've never felt this fucking terrible in my entire life.

I'm just sort of babbling here but I really feel awful and its so awesome that so many people cared about her. She was something else.

"She Loved to Laugh"

She went on for about five minutes one day about how she wanted that on her gravestone. I do think it would be befitting of her, but I don't have the heart to tell her family.


I still can't believe this.

I still have that tribute video Tommy made to her months ago.

Tommy, could you re-post it?

So sweet.

Huond: Can't change what happened friend, let's just remember fondly of all the times she had us laughing.

Man her puns are fucking so stupid you can't help but laugh.

http://waveny.com/143julie.wmv

Seriously, I know I make dumb videos because I'm a loser and have time, but if you guys can, please send me some pictures of her... any pictures... I'd like to (try) and make one last video.

What can I say? We all grieve differently.

I found out about this in a PM from Cpt today.

She was funny; a lot funnier than I'll ever be. And I am sorry for her family's loss.

i didn't know julie as well as some of you, but i want to say i really respect her amazing courage and energy. she was always hilarious and made such an impression on everyone she came in contact with. i will miss her posts and her blogs and her comments and her prank phone calls and i really am saddened by the fact that i never got to meet her in person. she was, you are right tommy - beyond hilarious not to mention fearless and tenacious and i know that will inspire me to be more like her.

i remember how she saved me from the ihop lady "im her big sister".... and how excited she was about our upcoming trip to new york city. julie had a huge presence on this little internet world and on the alternative comedy scene -- i can only imagine how her immediate family and friends adored her. my heart goes out to everyone who knew her.

I heard this morning. I don’t know why this makes me so upset but it does.
I’ve seen so many people I know die and go, and I know it’s selfish to feel that it’s unfair, and it’s selfish to want to pin it on somebody else. But it’s never pleasant and it’s never easy. When someone, especially so young, with loves and hates and dreams and passions and hopes and humour and all these little idiosyncratic feelings just like mine is dead and gone it seems so unfair and so tragic and it makes me extremely angry and ill. I’ve never been to fond of myself, so I guess I just put so much love into other people and it makes me physically sick when I think how tragic and awful this life treats them… I wish I could have known her better but the few times we did talk she was always a very real and good person and I'll miss her and this makes me cry...

www.waveny.com/JulieCalls.mp3

Ironically, she says "...it's Julie Self"

...until today, I didn't know self was her last name. I thought she was saying, "Julie herself."

EDIT: It's not "ironic", but I have such a lack of the English language to actually know what it is.

That just reminded me of when we were riding in a cab from the airport and our drivers name was Bygord something. She typed out a message on phone that said "Bygord to yourself and....[fuck i forget]"

She had so many quirks and insecurities that she covered with some really great jokes. She was so great.


"Tylenol ya later!"

I originally wasn't going to post because, having not known her outside of a few posts, I felt I would be disrespecting those that had actually knew her in real life.

Then I realized it'd probably more disrespectful if I didn't pay my respects and offer condolences to her and the other woman's(unfortunately I don't know her name) real friends and family.

A couple of us are on the conference call, I suggest you guys join.

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I've been at a loss for words since I first saw this thread. It seems like everything I could've possibly said has already been expressed by so many of you in your posts. I'll try anyway:

I only knew Julie as just another member of BUTM, but then again, to say she was "just another member of BUTM" is certainly an understatement. When she came back in August, it was the best thing that happened to these forums. So many great moments ensued and I was glad to be around during that time. She always brought something great to every thread she posted in.

I'm sorry I never had the chance to meet her, but especially sorry for all of those affected by her loss. My condolences go out to all of you. I believe she was everything you have all said she was and a whole lot more.

I would like to conclude with this great picture from the Paint thread.


"Bow down before the one you serve."

(This is all I can think to say)

Even if it's the only sincere thing I've ever said on this forum, I truly offer my deepest sympathies to their family and friends.

julie was a funny human being, and it makes me sad that someone with a talent to make others laugh has left us, for what greater remedy to sorrow is there? she confirmed my suspicion that girls can be damn funny. i didn't know her outside of this forum, but to those who actually knew her as a person outside of mere electronic means, i offer my sympathy. to her family and to that of her friend sarah, i don't really know what to say. words are so cheap, and life itself is far beyond the limits of what they can contain. my sincerest condolences.

jason

I found out this morning, but I'm still in a very strange state. My imagination is too strong for my own good. Damn, if she weren't so confrontational....but that's who she was. Unlike, some people I feel close to this community even if I'm not always around. It's more than a bunch of people with nothing to do. I'm sure anyone who regularly posts on this board would have an instant bond with another on this board. Even though I had just met her she treated me like an old friend. Initially, I saw the loudness and dismissed her as SBJ, but upon closer inspection she was fuckin witty. She even cared about the people she bitched at. I didn't know her that well, but she seemed to be a woman wrought with turmoil. If there is any silver lining, it is the fact that she will no longer have to worry. Today is one of the first days I hope there is something after this.

That was one of the funniest things about her. She would say something like "God I'm fat." and I would tell her that she was a babe, and she would say "Why do you hate me Seth?"

freetibet: I loved it when she turned into a mean loud drunk. It was really fun to listen to her go off on people. Man she had a biting wit after she got a few drinks in her.

Brain Stew: Don't kick your ass too hard about what you said to her in that other thread. It's the internet, people overreact. She knew that as well as anyone.

huond: Thanks for calling her mom. That's about the most difficult thing anyone could ever do. Just reading that post made my heart collapse.

I've never been so certain in my life that someone was destined to be famous, and not just in that abstract "star quality" sense. She had the drive, and she knew people, and she was just devoted almost pathologically to getting out to LA and getting involved in something good. She would have made TV more watchable if she had just gotten a few more years. It's absolutely horrific and unthinkable that something like this happened to someone like her. No one deserved it less than she did.

Also TJ I got your voicemail but I don't really think I'm in the mood to talk to anyone. I think I'm better off just trying to stay as drunk as possible for the moment.

Also I'm thinking about sending a link to this thread to her sister-in-law so that her family will know how much she meant to so many people all over the world, but I'm not sure if that's a good idea or not.

Anyway, thanks to everyone who's posted so far. It's making me feel at least a tiny bit better and I hope it's doing the same for you guys.

I only knew her from these forums and myspace also, and I really don't know what to say. This is very tragic, I really wish I had gotten a chance to know her better. There's no doubt of how great of a person she was and I hope you all are able to cope.

She will always be in my mind.

I can't speak for Leah since I don't know her personally, but feel like a sort-of know her since Julie talked about her all the time and really loved them all. I don't know why they wouldn't want to hear nice words about a loved one. I say go for it.

I won’t go into detail about how torn up I’ve been over this the past 12 hours, but the hackneyed expression “my heart sank into my chest” is something I can finally identify with. That’s exactly what it feels like.

I had the chance to meet Julie (twice), but fucked up the first opportunity and blew off the second. We did have a mutual experience together at the Galifinakis show (or the “Patton show,” as she would have called it), and I got to hear her talk, and laugh (and be funny) during the conference call, as well as trade a few PMs with her once or twice.

This is still incredibly surreal for me, and I won’t even try to bring any closure to this tragedy (or this thread) by saying that she’s gone to a better place, or that she led a great life, etc. This just flat-out sucks. The worst news I’ve ever heard. Ever.

RIP Julie.


And Sarah.

I keep feeling so awful for Sarah. I know that only Seth, Sean, and I were the some of the (if not the) only ones here who met her too, but God. I was so worried all night that she was the passenger and when I found out... I wish I knew some more of her friends or something. So awful. I knew Julie a lot better than I did Sarah, but I can't help but feel bad that she is getting relegated to stuff like "And Sarah." I know you didn't mean it like that, Scotch. I'm just saying.

I don't care what people post as long as it's sincere. Both of them being taken on the same night really is too much to think about at once for me. I don't know if I can say anything more without just being redundant, but they were great people.

I emailed Julie's brother with the link to this thread. I hope it makes someone over in San Antonio feel a little bit of comfort. I'm sure their families are going through absolute hell right now and this is really the only thing any of us can do for them.

You're right, seth. I'm just upset right now and trying to cope. I've had basically no rest since I heard about this last night. This has been the longest day of my life. The only thing I care about is how their family is dealing with this, honestly. They're going to be missed.

That thread reminds me of why Julie was such a blast to talk to. Man that girl knew how to get angry and how to get un-angry just as quick.

I just checked my messages on MySpace and I got something from Julie's family asking if anyone has any contact info for Sarah's family. They apparently don't know yet. This gets sadder and sadder. If anyone has any information please get it to me or to Julie's family ASAP.

More info from her away message:

"Tentatively, services will be held Wednesday at 10am at Mission off Cherry Ridge. We will have a more definite schedule after a meeting tomorrow morning.

http://www.mysanantonio.com/news/met....22bed839.html

WOAI will air a short tribute on the 10pm news.

FOX will be doing the same on the 9pm news.."

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Re-reading this thead and looking through all her goofball puns has made me realize how much of an impact she truly had on me, not just because she was a great friend and a completely terrific person, but she actually, measurably influenced the way that I make jokes and write humor.

I hope this doesn't look like tasteless self-promotion, because that's the last thing I want anyone to think, but the last update I wrote for somethingawful was basically just an excuse to make as many dumb puns as I could. I submitted it about 10 minutes after I heard the news about Julie, and when I was writing it, I thought it was lame as hell, but upon re-reading it, I realize that it's pretty much chock full of Julie jokes, and it's my favorite thing that I've ever written, although it's not half as clever or goofy or strange as the stuff that came out of her.

Also, I put an RIP about her and Sarah in my Daily Dirt, which I hope wasn't too tastless. I don't know why I did it. I guess it was as much for me as for anyone else. I just want people to realize that someone funny isn't going to get to make us laugh anymore.

I'm really drunk and miserable and not composed and I've only gotten about 4 hours of sleep in the last 48 hours so if any of this is awful and crappy and disrespectful, someone please tell me and I'll change whatever anyone wants.

My condolences to all those that knew her. I hope her family knows how much she meant to the people here. (man, it's so hard to not come off cliched or stodgy in a situation like this but sometimes maybe that's okay.)

Julie you will be missed.

My deepest sympathy goes out to her family and close friends who have to deal with this tragic loss.

I'm totally new here, but my heart goes out to those who knew this young woman. Losing someone this suddenly and appearantly senselessly makes the pain that much more raw.

I've been told that everyone who wishes to should please send flowers to:

Mission Park North
3401 Cherry Ridge St
San Antonio, TX 78230

The service is going to be there at Noon this Wednesday and she will be buried at Mission Park Cemetary.

It really sucks that something like this had to happen. I didn't know her much but the private messages sent back and fourth with her showed me she was a character. Her death had quite an impact on quite a few peoples lives so it goes to show that she was loved. My condolences go out to her family. Sorry it had to happen to soon.

R.I.P. Julie

This actually sounds like something Steve Kinda would say, so I'm sure Julie would have appreciated it.